I’m just your average stressed out college student with no idea what lies ahead of me. This blog will be a place for me to express my thoughts, rant about daily annoyances, and ultimately speak my mind. My posts will range from long paragraphs, to quotes, to pictures, and even words I find interesting. I will not be disclosing any real names in respect for the people in my posts. My goal is to post every day and watch myself evolve into a happier, healthier person. Keeping things bottled up has plagued me, and hopefully this will be an effective outlet.
Recently I’ve become much more active on Pinterest. I’ll include a link to my Pinterest at the end of this post. I love finding new ideas for make up, and Pinterest has literally thousands. I have 43 different topic boards, all different from each other, some including subcategories within. I absolutely LOVE being able to organize all of my saved posts, and there’s even an option to say you’ve tried certain crafts, recipes, etc with pictures from other users. The utility is phenomenal and the UI is very user-friendly. I’ve found so many awesome projects and tutorials on Pinterest, and it’s taken my creativity for a joyride.
You may have heard the terms: “loony bin”, “insane asylum”, “nut house”. These terms do not do psychiatric health facilities any justice. These derogatory terms deflect from the struggles the patients within the facilities have. I was first admitted in ninth grade. I struggled with a depression that plagued my every day life. I had great friends, went to a wonderful school, and I still suffered. I went on to be admitted 4 more times, and once in an outpatient program across 4 years. I’ve lost most of the memories I had from those dark times, but the lessons I learned from within the facility, I will carry with me forever.
Always show appreciation. Taking things for granted can be easy. “You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone” is more than just a lyric from a classic song. Taking a minute to appreciate the people in your life is essential to having healthy relationships. Being taken advantage of, even if you’re unaware of it immediately, leads to resentment. Not only that, but it contributes to the “nothing I do is ever good enough” mentality. A large portion of people suffering from depression feel inadequate. Showing appreciation isn’t just showering that person with gifts. It’s being present, it’s taking out the trash when it’s full, it’s going out of your way to make someone’s life a little easier, it’s a phone call. Appreciation doesn’t have to cost money. All it costs is a little effort, but that effort can make a dramatic difference to a person.
Take care of yourself and your needs. Putting others first is great, but losing yourself in the process is detrimental to your mental health. It feels great to know you’ve helped someone overcome a challenge, but it shouldn’t deflect from your own challenges. If you feel like you need to take a breather and figure out yourself for a day, do it. Spend time with yourself. Pamper yourself. Talk to a friend or professional about your hopes, dreams, and concerns. Take up a hobby. Make yourself a nice dinner. Treat yo self. Being kind to yourself is important, and will generally influence your mood. Make sure your needs are being met, and if they aren’t, speak up. You matter just as much as the people you help.
Ask for help. As stated above, speaking your mind is essential to self care. Asking for help can be difficult. It’s hard to teach yourself that you’re not a burden, and that your feelings are valid. Though family and friends can be very supportive, professional help is different. Talking to a therapist let me express my emotions completely, without having to worry about backlash. Therapy isn’t for everyone. We all have different stories and different coping mechanisms; but always ask for help if you feel you need it. Otherwise, it can lead to dangerous coping methods, like self-medication.
Be patient. “Patience is a virtue.” Everyone is different. Some can take things as they come, and others need a minute to fully understand the situation. Being patient can be very difficult, but think of it this way: While you’re patiently waiting for someone to figure something out for themselves, you’re giving that person an opportunity for personal growth. Being patient doesn’t mean refraining from offering assistance, but it does mean respecting that person’s right to accept or decline help. Respecting that everyone grows and learns at a different pace can lead to a happier, less angry disposition.
These are just a few of many things I took away from being held under a 72 hour watch. These things have helped me become empathetic and compassionate on a whole new level. If you have any questions, please shoot me a comment.
These lessons were things I learned. I am not saying they are the solution to being happy. They are my personal discoveries, and I do not claim to have the answers to what will work for everyone.
Be kind. Always. Kindness is contagious, and showing kindness to everyone, even those you don’t feel deserve it, is the best thing to do. One act of kindness can turn around an entire day.
Today while I was waiting to go to class, I was approached by someone obviously having a bad day. She asked if they could sit by me, and I nodded. After a few minutes went by, I tapped on her shoulder and told her that she had gorgeous hair, and asked for tips on how to do my makeup like she did. She responded with several thank you’s, and gave me a short explanation on how she did her makeup. I smiled the whole time, hanging on every word. By the time she had finished, she checked the time and had to leave. As she was packing up, I said “hang in there, it’ll all work out in the end,” and she said this kindness turned her day around.
Always be kind. Always spread love. No matter what.